Small thing...
Though it is because I couldn’t make it first, but the tone was simply too flippantly. I never know the displeasure (mixed with resentment) can be so overwhelming when you realized that your personal appointment is treated so lightly. The remaining day was almost ruined.
At least I learn 2 things:
1. Never take friend’s appointment lightly. As I now understand how badly it hurt…
2. Learn to manage my emotion, and make it obedience to the voice of HS. While recognizing that I am angry and disappointed is for a right reason, I must learn to accept it as a fact, and not be resentful and put on a positive outlook toward the friendship (or any relationship).
At least I learn 2 things:
1. Never take friend’s appointment lightly. As I now understand how badly it hurt…
2. Learn to manage my emotion, and make it obedience to the voice of HS. While recognizing that I am angry and disappointed is for a right reason, I must learn to accept it as a fact, and not be resentful and put on a positive outlook toward the friendship (or any relationship).
4 Comments:
You have learnt something amd you have done your best. Not like me, I am still struggling and yet manage to control my emotion. Just let it flow naturally while it is beyond your control....This is what I always tell myself.
personally, it would be ideal if the parties involved can come together and discuss about their feelings about the particular incident so that all involved can learn more about one another... But many a time, in an asian context, we are all just too "paisay" to tell the person straight...
If handled with tact and a sincere heart for the welfare of bringing the friendship to another level, it would be best if the things within the hearts of the parties involved can be discussed and communicated, without one another taking it too personally... Rather so that the friendship can be genuine, without the "unnecessary blemish" from the result of pure tolerance...
Hahhaa.. can see that i'm an advocate of straightforwardness... however, it is important that we also be aware that in our sharing of opinions, we have to give each other due respect too...
Hmm... Gelling both together would mean that there has to be a lot of tact and wisdom in between... as precarious as it seems, i believe that it can all be achievable with sincerity and love...
to Sandy,
ya. I already cleared it up with that friend le. :) It really felt a lot whole more better when 'small thing' like this can be eliminated.
:)
to SS,
i believe you are doing well. no worry, and don't push urself hard, take one thing at a time, you need to adjust slowly, if not, you ended up got 'internal injury' if u try to cope with all the changes at one time.
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