Google on "basics of gentlemen"

After the brother CG gathering, felt rather compelled to have a quick understanding on the basics of gentlemen... I really need to know more thorough on this issues... Maybe what I really lacking is this aspect.

Reaching for my lappy, click on my Firefox, there is my homepage "Google". (Now you know why Google stock price always going up...).

Googled "basics of gentlemen". Objective: To pick a few points and start apply in my life.

Results 1 - 10 of about 648,000 for basics of gentlemen. (0.10 seconds)

Basically, I only zoomed into a few links...

http://the-falcon1.tripod.com/schedules/id18.html (This is most useful and many practical example...)

http://www.stubbornlikeamule.net/?p=405 (This one can ignore... Not very helpful to my objective.)

http://www.mannersinternational.com/etiquette_tips_social.asp (This is a good website, it talked more than just gentlemen behavior, it cover the social grace, phone skill, business etiquette, etc...)

Well. Looking at those points, I must admit that some of "basics" is not build in my system yet... Just list down a few that I would like to try, and see what different will it cause in my daily life.

1. Do not stare. (Sometime I do stare at beautiful creation...)
2. Do not interrupt. (Shall be quick to listen, and slow to talk...)
3. Wait for seating before eating. (This one is in my blood, but, sometime, people just take ages to get their food... Unless, it is a group outing, and gathering, those regular meal time with colleagues will not apply this principle.)
4. Give up your seat. (This really have not come across my mind... If next time come across this situation, I will try to do this.)
5. Ask if she needs anything. (Well... Not everytime ask this question, but, hopefully when I do ask, it does not feel awkward...)
6. Open doors. (Normally when a lady is walking very close behind me, walking distance of less than 3 secs, I will hold the door and let her pass first. Been practicing this quite well in company. Probably, will extend that timing to 5 secs during Unit/CG setting...)

Yup. I think the above are some of the thing I will do it... After some thougths on this topic, my definition of true gentleman, "A person that love people so much, that he is willing put other's interest and need first, and doing it even it is not himself. And, understand the different between man & woman, he is willing to do what a woman expected of him as a social norm, as an expression of love."

Back to the brother CG, it was really a good time to get together. Few thing that I take home:

1. I probably cannot be too comfortable during CG gathering, lest I will be just be my old self. KK was very right in saying, "If you always be yourself, how would you grow?". One needle see blood. I got the point.
2. Looking at the demand/requirement of "gentlemen". I only can look to the Fruits of Holy Spirit in Galatians 5:22. Only with the Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, &, Self-control, and really only with all this quality of character in a man that qualify him to be a gentlemen that is pleasing not only in God's eye, but, it is brilliant to people around him.
3. Listening to Jian Ming's sharing on his courting experience, I am quite comforted that even a mature man like him cannot understand women's that everything-entangled-messed-up-no-clear-beginning & ending-emotion... Really, maybe I should not so frustrated and angry when any lady so moody, after all, woman are wired that way... As I expect acceptant & patient upon myself, I shall do the same to others.
4. On being mature. Growing in godliness shall do this job.
5. On being decent. Li xiong said, "a peanut to you, could be a mountain to me...". So, what is decent man? I think I shall look at the life of Jesus. He is surely beyond decent. Beyond the social norm, that is the Spirit of Excellence.
6. Care taker of one self and others under his care. Trying.